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Does anyone remember when Wale used to talk about love, relationships and #thatthing as a guest blogger for Honey Magazine? Although he’s currently running from those things, he definitely has some interesting views when it comes to relations between men and women.
Earlier this week, during a promo run for his new album The Gifted, he stopped by Nitecap with Peter Bailey to talk about his new project as well as how he’s been affected by fame in the last few years.
The conversation eventually ventured into love with Wale admitting that he doesn’t have a girlfriend currently because of his attitude, selfishness and greed.
He also admits he is trying to figure out what love is while saying that he can’t wait until he is able to experience fatherhood because he believes he has more than enough love to give to his kids.
On why he can’t keep a girlfriend
[…] Because of my attitude, my greed. The nature of a man I embody that. I’m a living embodiment of all the flaws, greed, the selfishness. I’ve got all of those things. I’m just knowledgeable enough to speak on them and I’m secure with where I am in my life. A lot of men keep it inside or are living in denial. I just live my life that way.
I went through years at a time where I didn’t even really believe in it. I thought it was all chance and chemical imbalance. It was kinda euphoria, when its like the right time, the right place, the right shape, the right situation. When you think something is going on in your mind and in your heart but in actuality its all lust. As growing I’m still trying to figure out what love is to me. But I think it is different to everybody though. I really do think there’s a different internal definition that’s beyond words for everybody [and] for what love is. There’s relationships where people really can feel love but there not magnums. So, everybody’s description of love might be different and I’m still trying to figure it out.
On showing emotion
Emotion is a taboo in hip hop. I don’t know when that started. But I just feel like we are supposed to be poets and we cant sing and do all that – emotions is suppose to come through our words. So when you take that emotion away, you’ve got a bunch of sh*t that’s monotone and you’re not really feeling nothing. […] I feel like emotion is good in hip hop. [They’ll say being emotional] is like being a woman or whatever. That’s how it is. […] I’ve come to grips with the fact that I’m kind of an emotional person. That’s what makes me make songs like “Lotus Flower Bomb” or a lot of things people fell in love with on my mixtape.
On the one thing men need to stop doing
I just feel like we just can’t keep running away. I can’t wait until I have kids because I’ve got so much love to give them. That’s going to be what’s going to give me that peace that nothing is ever going to be able to give me. We just can’t keep running away. A lot of times women do add to it now too, like women, a lot of them like to manipulate men and use their children as pawns. I always say, ‘Why use you’re child as a pawn, when there should be a king and queen?’ Like, a lot of women will be like, ‘Oh, you’re not going to come and pick your child?,’ when in actuality they really wanna say, ‘You’re not going to come over and make me feel okay or give me some type of attention? I’ve put on this weight since this baby and I ain’t been looking the same and my self-confidence ain’t what it used to be and I need some type of attention.’ That’s what it really means sometimes. They tried to make it seem like the [guys] don’t care about their child or whatever. But for the most part, black women can’t keep running away. That’s a cycle that’s been around for years.